Is He The Right One For Me – How will I know if he (or she) is the RIGHT one for me? Posted by [email protected] on 04/08/201804/08/2018
How will I know if he really loves me… The words of an old, familiar song come to mind as we begin the topic of dating, marriage and finding the right person. You may remember this song made famous by Whitney Houston… “How Will I Know If He Really Loves Me?” So how do you know if you’ve met the “right” person? How should a girl know if she has found the man she wants to marry? Or how would a guy know if he met his future wife? These are the age-old questions young adults ask as they begin dating, hooking up, and looking to the future. With some young adults in my home and in my immediate sphere of influence, I thought this might be a fun topic to cover as we head into spring and wedding season. I’ve also talked to many of you (who aren’t quite so young) who are also considering a relationship or remarriage. You may be asking the same questions… How will I know if he/she is right for me? Really, how do I know they are “right” for me?
Is He The Right One For Me
How will I know if he (or she) is the RIGHT one for me? So often people answer these questions with an answer that I understand but really don’t like – “You’ll just know.” It’s true. You will KNOW – deep in your heart. However, I think there is much more to this answer. For this reason, I want us to consider some ways in which we can KNOW if a person is good or not good for us. Over the next 7 weeks, we’ll look at a few additional ways you can really know if someone is right for you to date, hook up with, or marry. I have talked to many happily married couples, read many great books on the subject. I am also enjoying my 27th year with my husband. I’ll share the wisdom of many people I respect, the wisdom of some great sources, and some of the things I’ve learned in my own marriage. Today, let’s look at the first way you can know if someone is right for you. This comes in the form of a question. Do you have PEACE about this person and your relationship? True peace is freedom from disturbance; silence and tranquility. Being at peace means being calm, relaxed and filled with great satisfaction in your relationship. When you’re with the right person, you should be able to be completely yourself. You must not broadcast, pretend or be something you are not. When you find the right person, there should be peace and complete freedom, both when you are with them and when you are not. Let me explain with a few true stories: Story One: Kendall was in a serious relationship with Russell. They were on their way to the altar. She was beautiful; he looked nice. They had such chemistry. But something was wrong. When Kendall started losing weight and withdrawing, friends asked what was going on. Russell was putting so much pressure on her. He was incredibly sensitive to her actions and reactions, and she always felt like she was walking on eggshells. Both were great people, but they didn’t bring out the best in each other. Kendall could never relax with Russell. Eventually their relationship ended and they both married other people. I can tell you that they are both happily married decades later. Another story: Zach was such a nice guy, but he was always trying to act and please the girls he was dating. His parents noticed that he never really relaxed with any of the girls he brought home. They were nice girls, but they kept Zach on edge. Then one day he brought Maria home. His parents immediately noticed how calm and relaxed he was with Mary. She let him be completely himself. They were a good match and today they are happily married. It’s not rocket science, but it’s a good test for couples – a test of peace. Here are some final questions to consider:
Prayer: Where I Am To Be
After giving serious thought to your answers to these questions, may I encourage you to pray for your relationship? Talk to the Lord about it! Don’t worry about anything; rather pray for everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for everything he has done. Philippians 4:6, NIV
Join us next week as we look at additional ways to know if someone is right for us to marry. If you have insights to share, I’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you know if your girlfriend or boyfriend is right for you??
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In a scientific way, soulmates do exist – but not quite in the way you think! This is according to licensed psychologist Shauna H Springer, who researches lifestyle and relationships. He says that over time, people can become soul mates with each other in a good relationship.
What does that mean? Basically, you are not allowed to initiate soulmates. But if you and your partner love each other and have a healthy, positive relationship, you can become soul mates. This is why it is important to make sure that your boyfriend is truly perfect for you. Here are some signs that he is the one!
“When you finally meet the right one, it suddenly becomes clear why everyone else was wrong.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli
Let The Right One In
There is no way to emphasize enough how important honesty and communication are in any relationship. In fights and disagreements, it can be the difference between a romance that survives or crashes and burns.
When you encounter problems, your goals should be to talk things out and find mutual understanding—not to “win” the argument.